I could write you a post about 10 keys to healthy living that include things like exercise 30min every day, eat leafy greens, drink water…. these are all very important and usually, they’re the kind of things I talk about but for some time now I’ve been trying to figure out why do we find it so hard to follow these simple, common sense guidelines. Why do we keep on doing all the wrong things, no matter how well we know what’s good for us and what isn’t?

So I thought back on my own life and realized that figuring out these three things (the first one only in the last few months) is what makes looking after yourself easy and natural – no more will power required!

1. Respect yourself

Love yourself. Accept yourself. Be kind to yourself. And when I say love yourself, I mean really love your true self, right here, right now, the way you are today. Don’t wait until you’re at your target weight or until you are able to stick to your training schedule religiously for 3 months or until you’ve landed your dream job. You need to love yourself unconditionally and treat yourself with respect. You are perfect just the way you are. Once you do, sticking to that healthy eating regime will be easy, you will get to your target weight in no time. Trust me on this one. Once you really respect yourself, you will not want to abuse yourself with junk food, it just won’t make sense any more. You will naturally want to nourish your body, show yourself love by fueling your body and mind with foods that make you healthier and more energetic. Once you really love yourself, it is also easy to be kind to yourself and allow yourself to ‘go off plan’ every now and then and treat yourself to something bad; you won’t even feel guilty for it and you won’t find it hard to control yourself.

2. Stop criticizing others

When people criticize others, they are usually (or always?) hiding their own insecurities. Next time you find yourself criticizing someone (even a celebrity!) for being too skinny, too fat, bad hair, too big a nose, OMG look at her lipstick, too this and too that… stop. Why does it matter to you what someone else looks like? Who decides what is ‘too’ anything? How do you really feel about yourself? I mean REALLY? Be honest. If you are so critical of others, you are also going to be very critical of yourself – this is a fact. So for your own sake, stop. If you really love yourself unconditionally, you are not going to judge yourself based on the size of your backside – you would want others to show you a bit more respect than that, so it’s time you started respecting yourself too.

It’s not an ¬†easy thing to do to stop judging others over silly things because everyone does it all the time, but it is worth it. The first thing you absolutely have to do is stop watching reality TV shows – these are there just to encourage you to criticize others plus, news flash, they’re actually not really reality. Stop reading gossip magazines and for god’s sake get off and other gossip sites. Try to have a week without any of the trashy media and notice the difference. You’ll also find you have far more time to prepare those healthy meals and go out for a run!

3. Think only positive thoughts 

This goes hand in hand with the above. Once you stop judging, start replacing all negative thoughts with a positive. Even the small, simple ones like ‘oh no, I hate Mondays, I don’t want to go to work’ instead, say ‘Yay, another new week full of opportunities. I can’t wait to get started!’ It will feel a bit fake at first but as you do this, you’ll find that soon positive thoughts will come to you automatically. A really good exercise to do is to write a gratitude diary. Every evening, write down good things from that day, things you are grateful for. They can be just little every day things – it is about finding something positive in every day.


I hope this gives you some food for thought. If you have any points to add, please tell me in the comments.